by Oluseye Igbafe
Most compliments are given with good intentions (I think). However, a compliment not properly phrased can actually sound more like a jab or worse still, an outright insult.
I was trying out a wig at a hair shop today when a young man with possibly good intentions turned and said, "This one is nice, it makes you look young".
In my mind, I was like, _hmm?! Am I not young? Egbami o!. So the phrase "makes you look young" would be a compliment for an old woman, which I am definitely NOT! It implies I look old! That wipes out whatever pleasure was to be gotten from that compliment.
Now if he had said, "It makes you look younger", that would have been a compliment!
Let's look at another common supposed compliment. "This dress/hair/shoe makes you look nice! This means it is the dress that makes you look nice. A better way to put it is: This dress looks nice on you!
Another common one is "You are looking good/smart/nice today! Or you smell nice today Why the need to add "today"?
So what other uncomplimentary compliments have you been given?