by Oluseye Igabfe
Recently I remembered my conversation with an acquaintance and below are some typical snippets
Me: I love your scarf.
Her: Thanks oh, I bought it on my trip to Paris. It was about €40.
Me: Wow! That's nice.
What I probably should have said: Who asked you? Just say thank you. #SMH
Me: That house is lovely.
Her: It's ok, my husband is buying something like this in Lekki for N40m, it's on 2 hectares.
Me: Thank God for you.
What I actually should have said: Really? Yet you borrow N500 from me regularly and don’t pay back?
Me: I need to renew my license oh, these Police people almost caught me last week.
Her: The last time the police stopped me, I called the Governor’s aide cos I didn't want to call him directly, the policemen started begging me.
Me: Hmmm, I prefer to just do my license in peace
What I probably should have said: Keep quiet sis, you & I know you don't know the Governor or his aide.
Sadly, these are actual conversations between real women and me. These are even few examples. Don't get me wrong, a lot of men are equally guilty.
Name-dropping Syndrome is a condition that causes people to introduce the names of famous or important people, allegedly, as friends or associates in order to impress others. Names of celebrities, government officials, rich people, etc, are casually (though unnecessarily) mentioned to project an aura of importance. Most of the time, these name-droppers don't even know these people; they are driven to give this high projection about their person. Some also drop names of places they have visited - both literally and in their minds. Every story starts with "When I was in Italy, London or NewYork.
A similar syndrome is Label/ Brand/ Designer Name-dropping. Sufferers of this syndrome cannot receive a compliment with a gracious thank you. They must inform you the make of their shirt is Tommy Hilfiger, their wristwatch is Seiko or Rolex, their shoes is Jimmy Shoos or Valentino, their perfume is Channel or Davidoff, their bag is Gucci even their handkerchief is Yves Saint Laurent even though they can't pronounce the name of any of the designers properly. They buy things just so they can show off.
Price Exaggeration is another syndrome I will mention here. The syndrome makes its sufferers exaggerate the price of things; even things that have a known price, they give it a bigger price. They love dropping prices like tens of thousands or better still, foreign currencies (dollars, pounds, euro, etc). Worse still, they tend to ask for the price of everything; they have a need to put a price on what others possess. They always know price of things but know the value of nothing.
These three syndromes all have the same major cause: insecurity.
Rather than have the intended effect of impressing others, it has an adverse effect which makes the person sound superficial, egoistic and insecure. Don't be fooled by the “awww” or “hmmm” with which people respond, most of the time, they are rolling their inner eyes and mocking in their head. Take it from me, these kind of people are laughed at when they aren't there.
NDS and other syndromes reflect tackiness, classlessness and a lack of social grace,. it barely impresses people, rather, it annoys them; and makes you look shallow and insecure. Stop it!
Do you have NDS? Make a decision to limit information to what you are asked. Never give the cost and stop asking for the cost of things. Forget about impressing others, most of the time, they don't care!
Do you know people who have NDS? Share your experience.
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