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15 Ways to Love Yourself.

by Oluseye Igbafe

1.       Make a List: There is definitely a lot to love about you so list 5 of your most sterling qualities, keep the list close by and review it occasionally.

2.       Stop Negative Thoughts. What do you think of yourself? When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Begin to see the best in you. Think great thoughts only. Reject negative thoughts about yourself and replace them with good ones.

3.       Change what you can, embrace what you can’t. There are things you don’t like about yourself that you can change... change them. Embrace the things you cannot change.

4.       Exit Toxic Relationships: Get as far away as possible from anyone who makes you feel small, powerless or insignificant. Let them go, they do not belong in your life.

5.       Don’t Compare Yourself with others: The reason God gave us all different DNA and fingerprint is to remind us of our uniqueness. You are not the same with anyone and no one is the same as you. Enjoy your uniqueness.

6.       Forgive Yourself: No matter the mistake, error or blunder you have made in the past, its time to forgive yourself and let it go. You can’t change the past so don’t let it ruin the present.

Buy the best you can afford for yourself. Never borrow to buy but  splurge within your income. Buy the best you can afford, you deserve it.

8.       Schedule “Me” Time:  Schedule a little time each day or week to spend alone. Get in touch with your inner self, meditate and relax. Enjoy your own company.

9.       Laugh, Laugh and Laugh: Laughter is the best medicine. Get a good dose of laughter often. Watch a comedy flick or subscribe to funny jokes channels.

10.      Spend time with People who cherish and uplift you: Friends, family, old school mates., Colleagues. Wherever you find them, Create time and room for those who value you.

11.   Listen to music: Whatever genre of music you enjoy, listen to it often. Sing along if you can, sing out loud and do a little dance. Its guaranteed to lift your spirit and soul.

12.   Practice the Art of Saying No!  Don’t do things just to please others at your own expense. If you can’t just say No! Say No to whatever hurts you or puts you down.

13.   Show love to others: By showing love, respect and kindness to others, you mirror to them how you want to be treated. Give gifts of love to others as well.

14.   Pamper Yourself: Get a massage or a pedicure often. Use soothing bath oils like lavender or lemon. Buy a great fragrance and wear it often.  Eat at a fancy restaurant, buy yourself good ice-cream or chocolate. The list goes on and on. Do something nice for yourself... Often!

15.   Have Fun! Enjoy your life as much as you can. You have only one life to live, live it to the fullest. Work hard, play hard. Enjoy your life today!

True love for you is the foundation of a good life. Value yourself and these values will affect not just what you do but even those around you. Learning to love yourself is what fills you with love.

Your turn…
Do you have any special way you love yourself? 
Can you add to this list?
Leave a comment below and share your thoughts with us.


  1. Love yourself,makes it easierto love others.

  2. Love yourself,makes it easierto love others.

    1. Thanks for your comment. You are very right. Until you love yourself, you cant truly love others.


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