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Sexualization of Children

As I waited in the departure lounge of a local airport, I noticed there were many children about but it was understandable since it was summer holiday. One other thing I noticed was the way most of the children were dressed. Most of them, especially the girls, were dressed in bum shorts, halter necks, cut off jeans, etc. The clothes in themselves weren't the issue per se; it was the overall look of the children that had me bothered. That was definitely not the first time I noticed it. 

few months before, I had taken my kids to a birthday party and found myself in what could easily have been a night club for kids. Scanty clothing such as tight or very short clothes, bum shorts, long weaves, etc, seemed to be the dress code. I noticed my daughter glancing around her, probably wondering, "What in God's world are these other children wearing?" Or something like that. 

Not long after, the kids were called out to dance to the hit songs of the season - these songs in my opinion should be rated PG 13. 4-6 year olds trooped to the dance floor, miming the sexually explicit songs and gyrating their bodies in the most sensual manner. They could have given Beyounce a run for her money. 

They ran their hands over their bodies, shook their booties hard while their parents cheered them on. The boys had their upper shirts unbuttoned and rapped along perfectly to gangsta raps while doing flawless break dance. 

Those who danced like actual children where shooed off the dance floor while the lewd ones were cheered on. As I watched, my child stared out of this circle looking longingly at the others dancing. I knew it was time to leave. As we left, we went to a eatery where I bought them ice cream and gently explained to them the concept of decency and dancing with decorum. 

Another time, at a game arcade for kids, I ran into a lady who had made-up her kids' faces like they were mannequins for Tara or Mac beauty products. Their skirts were so tight, that running up and down the slide was uncomfortable for them. 

So the question is, why are we sexualizing our kids? Why does your 4, 6 or 9 year old girl have to look like a chick? Why does she have to be hot or sexy? Should your 8 year old son go around with a comb in his hair and his pants sagged almost to his ankles? 

If your child wears bum shorts out of the house at age 3, why should she be expected to wear longer ones at 15? If she wears 2 rings and 12 bangles at 6, why won't she pierce a second ear hole at 17 and her bellybutton at 19? 

Why won't your son pierce his own ear at 15? Are you setting your children up to be immodest and indecent? What trend are you starting them on? That all these are fashionable or trendy doesn't mean it's ok. 

Some parents even dress their children like this to church. Church! 

What are you teaching the child? What happened to children wearing dresses to church? Children can look very nice and decent, they can be well covered and still look good. In this age, when children are being abused, is it wise to make your child an object of anyone's sexual attention? 

When I hear some children belt out sexually explicit lyrics, I ask myself how they became exposed to this songs! As a parent, you can't play the CD of such songs and not expect your children to pick them up; the same goes for watching Mtv Base, Channel O, etc with your children. 

Studies have shown that children exposed to a high level of sexually explicit information tend to become sexually active early. Is that your goal as a parent?

Being a Parent involves sacrifice. You will need to avoid listening to such music where your children are.

Most of those lyrics demean women and teach your daughter that she's just a sex toy and her body is for squeezing. It teaches the boys that money is everything and women are things to be used to satisfy their primal urges. These music introduces them to a degrading pop culture.

Our children have their lives ahead of them, let's set them on the right path by teaching them to dress decently and sing nice or age-appropriate songs. Let your children be children. Train up a child in the way that s/he should go and when s/he is old, s/he would not depart from it.

Do you agree that children are unnecessarily exposed to sexually explicit elements? Is it possible that some parents are victims themselves or is it that they don't know any better?


  1. Very educating. Young mother should learn from this. It is high time we teach our children how to dress decently. I somehow believe that some parents are the cause of sexaul assault on their kids because they expose them too much and remember children learn from what they see and hear. Parents the ball is in your court.

    1. Thanks for your comment. The ball is surely in their court.

  2. This is an interesting read. I had to share with my friends. Children are children and should rightly remain so.. It is unfortunate that kids are introduced to this at an early stage ..We should also not forget that the world we live in at the moment is rotten. You find this improper things everywhere, perfume advertisements, tv, magazines at your local off licence and as your rightly mentioned music videos which shouldn't be watched by any child as it is not for them!
    As parents, mothers in particular we should faithfully guide the child/ ren entrusted to us as a gift from the Almighty. It is only when we as women begin to find these things unacceptable and disgusting; that is when evaslasting change will sweep all these unclean things to the depths never to rise again...
    Thanks for posting

  3. We dress them bad and want them to appear good; they will only get worse and worst in the future beyond our controls

  4. Totally amazing and enlightening read. As an MC, i ve seen loads and loads of these miniature Beyonces bump and grind on the dance floor and their parents cheering them on and feeling important. It just goes to show how debased in thinking we seem to be and how the music videos and hollywood movies are our guide to what is Appropriate or wrong.

    1. True words! We just need parents to re-orientate themselves about true values and stop copying others.

  5. True for sure.If as parents we continue with such,then the future generations are a ruine.Who do we blame,if that be so.

  6. Very good read. Honestly, what happened to Jeans pants and tees for children? Does it have to be bum before its called shorts? I see these kids and ask my hubby to pinch me (to wake up) the day i ever think of letting my children out of the house scantily dressed.

    1. Very True! I guess the media happened and the lines between what is acceptable in a musical video and real life became blurred. The need to conform and blend is now higher than the need to promote decency.


    1. Thanks for you comment! A big Amen to your prayers!

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  9. Good read indeed!Common man becoming prey to the showy media responsible for perversion that has been hitting the society hard!!

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