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Money & Cliches!

A few years ago, while I was waiting in an office reception, I watched a nice film about a couple who decided to take a year away from their jobs to see the world (No, of course it’s not a Nigerian film!)
They flew from continent to continent and cruised from shore to shore having a lifetime experience.
I was almost about to sigh out loud in envy when the lady beside me said "My sister money is not everything".
I smiled at her and shrugged in a non-committal manner while saying to myself.
“Yeah, money is not everything but men! it sure goes a long way!!!!!.

I mean who would rather be poor when they can be rich? Wouldn’t you rather ride in a Bentley than on a bicycle? Wouldn’t you rather live in a mansion than a face-me-I face you?
Being very rich am sure must be nice and convenient.
Riding in a Chauffeur driven car, shopping at the best places, having the best things, flying all over the world .........
It’s not everything but it’s close, quite close.

Probably misjudging the smile on my face she adds "Money cannot buy happiness"
Again am really not in the mood for this discussion but am like (in my mind that is) It can't buy happiness but if happiness has a sister, money can buy her, I mean money................
Breaking my chain of thoughts she adds," I mean if you had to choose between sickness and money which would you choose?"

Ok, I can't take it anymore!!!!! I’ve had it!!! So I reply, "Why such a comparison"? Must I choose between them?
I mean Sickness and Money are not two mutually exclusive elements, so why one or the other? Are all rich people sick? Or are all poor people healthy? I mean the rich & sick are better off than the sick & poor.
Anyway, I choose to be rich and healthy, I concluded.

"Yes, she replies but the truth is the best things in life are free"
I shrug again, I mean if these cliches give you comfort then I won’t dissuade you.
The best things in life are free: like the hug of a child, laughing with your friends, taking a stroll with your husband, the love of your family...... Yes they are free but even the best things in life can still be enhanced by money.

I mean the hug of a well fed child on her way to Disneyland, the company of friends during a weekend gate- away in Paris, strolling with your husband along your serene estate, the love of your family on a sponsored cruise as against the hug of an hungry child, the company of broke friends, strolling with your husband along smelly gutters while avoiding touts etc.
Yeah, those best things can be well enhanced.

Leaving sometime later, I ask myself, why do people like cliches? Why do they repeat it to themselves, is it to get some kind of comfort or solace? I mean, yes, the bible says the love of money is root of evil yet all the Patriarchs were greatly blessed of God and were rich.

I turn my mind back to the film, I need to upgrade my plans, a year off work to see the world sounds tempting.........


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