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Knowing Better!

(I wrote this a while ago and I still love it.)

Knowing Better

Have you ever wanted to do something but couldn't because you know better?
Then you wish you didn't know better,
Because once you know better, you can't do that which you know better than to do,

It becomes worse when he/she ( the other party) knows that you know better.
If he didn't know that you know better, then you could have at least pretended that you don't know better and do that that which you know better than to do.

The worst is when he/she knows that you know that he knows that you know better,
If he didn't know that you know that he knows that you know better,
then you could have assumed that he doesn't know that you know better,
But now that he knows that you know that he knows that you know better, you just have to give it up.

Bottom line, once you know better you can never really do that which you know better than to do

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